True relationship is two imperfect people refusing to give up on each other. The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them. Relationships are our biggest muse and by inspiration. Whether funny or serious, painful or uplifting, we love to wax poetic about the relationships that shape our lives.
You might have noticed how with certain couples love and affection flow so naturally and effortlessly. This is because of couples have learned to accept one another as they are, which leads to greater intimacy and a more vibrant love flow.
In relationships, by keeping the love flowing means it’s a way of learning to embrace the moment, live without fear, and make the most out of my life and relationships. Some of the things I learnt over years is going with the flow allows me to:
- *Concentrate on the things that matter in my relationship.
- *Spend less time trying to control things which I have no control over.
- *Be open to new and exciting experiences.
- *Let go of unnecessary stress and pressure within the relationship.
- *Don’t Try to Change Your Loved One.
One can more adaptable to changes and embrace challenges within their relationship and have a clearer purpose as to how you want your relationship to be.
*Let go of your expectations and ideas of perfection*
Learning to let go of all the expectations and visions of perfection which you’ve built up can be tough. Practice going into situations with an open mind, the less you expect, the more chance you’ll be willing to embrace new experiences with your partner.
If there are some expectations which you really can’t let go of, talk to your partner, and work out a way to manage these expectations healthily. Just being aware of your expectations that will help when faced certain situations. It will allow you to see where you are being unrealistic, and in return, you could practice letting idea of perfection slowly fade away.
*Accept that you can’t control others*
You and your partner will inevitably have different ways of doing things and different of opinions. However large or small the issue is, the fact is we can’t control our partner. Trying to stop or change your partner from doing something which feels natural to him or her will usually end in resentment and unhappiness. It’s important to relinquish some of your control when you go with the flow. That doesn’t mean giving up your power, instead, it’s all about accepting that you have control over yourself – but not over anyone else.
One can let go of the need to control your partner by understanding where your need for control comes from. Quite often, it’s bought on by fear, insecurities and a lack of trust. Learn to have trust in yourself and your partner, especially when it comes to the small things. Accept that you won’t get it straight away, but practicing over time will help it become easier. BREATHE, When you’re faced with a situation where your control is challenged, take a step back and remind yourself that you are only in control of yourself.
*Learn to let go of the past*
Some things are easier to let go of than others, but if you want to experience a real flow within your relationship, you have to practice letting go of every experience which you’re holding onto.Not only does it stop you from embracing your future, but you’re also punishing yourself for things which have happened and which can’t be changed.
Mistakes will be made in relationships, but putting the past behind you and moving forward is the only way to make create a strong, loving relationship. I have learnt it hard way to put behind my past.
• Instead of indulging in painful memories over and over again and reliving it in different ways, give yourself one final chance to think over the situation before you accept that it’s happened and it’s finished.
• Learn to forgive yourself and whoever hurt you in the past. Without forgiveness, you’ll be stuck in these memories without a way to move forward.
• Take back your power. Acknowledge your hardships and instead of feeling like the victim, focus on how they’ve made you into the person you are today.
• Stop looking for closure. We’ve been told so often that once you receive closure on a situation, you can move on. But in some cases there isn’t any closure, so you must learn to move on regardless.
Final Thoughts … learning to go with the flow is a work in progress, and there’s no telling how long it will take for you to go with the flow in your relationship. You may get frustrated at times, and even think about giving up, but remember – nothing comes easy.
You are effectively changing your thought process and managing your emotions different You’ll open yourself up to endless possibilities with your partner, and embrace love in a way like never before.
The process can take some time. But when you do manage to go with the flow in your relationship, all the hard work will be ….it will be Worth!