“When it comes to relationships, remaining faithful is never an option, but a priority. Loyalty is everything”.
Have you ever stopped to consider whether love or loyalty is more important to you?
My initial thought was; how can you have one without the other? Can Love Exist Without Loyalty?
Could I love someone even if they were unfaithful to me? Would someone be able to love me if I cheated on them?
The definition of loyal is faithful adherence. So, what does that mean in relationship?
Knowing you have loyalty in a relationship is knowing that your partner always has your back, and that you can count on them through thick and thin. This provides stability and a strong foundation that’s imperative for any relationship to go the distance.
A great example in how this shows up in a relationship is when after a hectic day at work, your partner provides a sounding board to vent your feelings and emotions from the roller coaster you experienced. This not only enhances interpersonal communication, but provides another crucial layer of vulnerability in your relationship.
I’ve had my fair share of heartache as much as the next person. When you love someone, and they don’t love you back, or whether you’ve been with someone for months, years even, or if you’ve loved someone from afar; not having your love returned is enough to break the coldest heart.
But at least heartache makes you feel something. It reminds us we’re alive.
Some foundational characteristics of loyalty are respect, communication, affection, intimacy, vulnerability, and compassion.
Loyalty is being dedicated to not only your partner, but to the relationship and each other. To know that you are fully committed to one another, and to realize how any individual decision must be considered in how it impacts your partner and your relationship.
Loyalty is a beautiful transformation of respect and reliability. It’s the maturity in knowing that all relationships have their good and not so good times. Are you going to just throw in the towel when things get rough? Or do you roll up your sleeves and figure out how to improve your relationship and truly be there for your partner? The key in reliability is knowing explicitly that you can always count on having each other’s backs no matter what
Loyalty is making your partner your best friend. You are 100% committed to them and on their side. You may not always agree, but you don’t hold each other’s hostage by making the other person wrong. This is the person you want to spend most of your time with. While it’s okay to have separate hobbies and interest, your partner is the first person you want to call when you have good news. They are also the first person you want to call when you need help.
“Always Be Authentic to Yourself and Your Partner”
Before you can build trust and loyalty, you need to understand what it means to your partner and be on the same page to build a long-lasting relationship.
Keep Promises and Secrets
Be sure to keep your promises and don’t keep secrets from one another.
Leave Your Judgement out of It
Be sure to respect each other and your differences without judgement
Don’t Be Afraid to Be Vulnerable
Honesty and vulnerability are keys to building loyalty and trust in relationship
Be Forgiving
Forgiveness is essential in building and maintaining loyalty
Be Committed to Working on Yourself
Personal growth and development not only make you a better person, but significantly improve your relationship
The importance of loyalty and continuing to build upon it are crucial in allowing a relationship to not just survive, but to ultimately thrive.
For me, there is no greater feeling than finding yourself in a loyal relationship with someone who loves you dearly, whom you love deeply in return.
Much Love
RK