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What We See in Others is a Reflection of Ourselves


Judge nothing, you will be happy. Forgive everything, you will be happier. Love everything, you will be happiest

You may have heard it before, but it is such a strong statement: “We can only see things within others that we see within ourselves”.

Do you ever think something about a person you don’t know and then later wonder if you were wrong?

I have moments like that. Then I sit and wonder feeling bad about doing it. Realizing also that many people may have been judging me all day. Incorrectly. We have all judged and been judged. It might be over small things, or over bigger issues. Regardless, we do it. The question is why?

When we judge, does it reflect others or us?

We are inclined to this natural tendency of Judging others; it is part of human nature. Remember, we are more alike than different.

Everyone you meet is your mirror

We use other people as mirrors on which to base our essential view of the world and ourselves. That is the exact reason why it is so easy for us to judge others.

The reasons why judging others is about you…..not the person you are judging!

  • The Way You Feel About Yourself

Most judgments we make about people are based on lack of information.  We make assumptions and judgments based on what we see, not on facts.

  • Mind Programming

I believe we teach our mind what to think and repeat back to us. We make assumptions about others and about their lives based on what the social media has planted into our minds.

We come to understand ourselves best through our relationships with other people. We can only be triggered by something we have experienced ourselves. The traits we tend to dislike in others are usually the traits we do not like about ourselves.  We then tend to judge and criticize these characteristics.

Since one cannot stop this altogether, at least we can take action when we find our self judging:

  • Be Open
  • Be Curious
  • Be Empathetic
  • Be Self-Aware

Every person we meet in life is showing up at the perfect time in our lives to reflect something we need to heal within ourselves. The people with whom you interact are showing you who you are and ultimately providing you with an opportunity to love yourself.

When we predominantly choose thoughts of love, we live in a reality of love.  In other words, as we focus on our light within, we bring out the light within others.

Much Love



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