Rebuild Your Self-Worth

“Self-love, self-respect, self-worth: There’s a reason they all start with ‘self.’ You can’t find them in anyone else”.

If you’re gone through a breakup, hardships in relationships or divorce, your self-worth might suffer too. You might have felt worthless and value-less. There is feeling of a failure. Everyone has this phase in the journey of life and it’s not new.

For someone who have been in the relationship and being together for couple of years, its hard and absolute devastating. Many of us recognize the value of improving our feelings of self-worth. When our self-esteem is higher, we not only feel better about ourselves, we are more resilient as well. Your self esteem is undoubtedly influenced by your self- worth, however they are not the same.

Self Esteem is derived from what you think others “think” of you based on your results and actions. Whilst, Self-Worth is an internal state of being that comes from self-understanding, self-love and self-acceptance.

It’s a state that is somewhat timeless and unchaining because it’s a direct measure of how you value and regard yourself in spire of what others may say or do. It’s a steady and unflinching and therefore holds power to radically transform your life for the better.

Having high level of self-worth means having unshakable faith in yourself and in your ability to follow through and get things done. It means feeling worthy of good things, feeling deserving of happiness, health, wealth , success and love – irrespective of the difficulties you face , the disappointments you experience or of people’s opinions.

For me, self-worth also means accepting yourself wholeheartedly at all times despite your flaws, weaknesses, and limitations. It’s about recognizing the real value of who you are-  right here, right now , at this present moment.

Over the years of my life and the very moment, I have never allowed myself to be defined by outside  forces, including people’s opinions to shake my confidence, faith or resolve. Always believe that “Your influence alone is the only thing that matters”.   

So how do we go about building our self-worth to empower our daily decisions and actions in a way that will help us achieved our desired outcomes. I am sharing with you five steps for doing exactly that-

This isn’t something that you can do just once and then forget about, however something that one must consistently work on.

1. The Self-Understanding

   To know yourself at a deeper and more profound level. Who you are and how you see yourself as keys to understanding your true value. Identify your strengths, that will help you build your self confidence.

2. The Self-Acceptance

You are not born perfect, have flaws, mad mistakes and failed miserably time and and again. However, this is you, true you. Always forgive yourself for everything you’ve done in the past and accept yourself  unconditionally without judgement or excuses. Accept that this is how you are and you will be at peace.

3. The Self-Love

Treat yourself with kindness, tolerance, generosity and compassion. One of simple ways is to talking to yourself that brings focus and attention to the beauty hidden within you.  Use mindfulness, journaling, observation, or even therapy to get an accurate picture of the thoughts you’re thinking about yourself.

• “I am worthy.”
• “I am enough.”
• “I am complete.”
• “I have everything I need within me.”
• “I love myself even if no one else loves me

4. The Recognition

You’re no longer looking at outside circumstances or people for approval or acknowledgement. You hold the power to respond to events or circumstances of your life based on your resourcefulness which is reflection of your true value.

5. The responsibility

Take full responsibility of everything that happens to you without giving away your personal power to change and influence the events or decision of your life.

None of these things are one-time things, or just for you to read today and go back to the rest of your life. If you’re serious about your relationship with yourself, you have to commit to it. You have to keep showing up for yourself. You have to ritualize and habitualize all the practices that’s shared. I learned how to improve the relationship with myself and it improved every aspect of my life.

I’m thankful for my mistakes and lessons in my life that helped me to put a spotlight on my self-worth. I have done so much work to heal the self-sabotaging parts of myself.

You too to rebuild your self-worth and become the most whole, complete, and happy version of yourself.

Much Love

RK