There is a famous saying, Forget the past if it is hurtful. You must be familiar with this phrase as either your friends, family, or teachers might have said this to you at some point in life. What we may have not realised is that human beings are meaning-making machines. As children, we often experience events or see things that define what you believe about the world and form our belief system. One might forget the past; however, the meanings those incidents create in our growing age lead to a deep dent in adulthood. It may be indicated by difficulties in emotional regulation, consciousness, and memory, self-perception, distorted perceptions of the perpetrators of abuse, problems in relationships with other people, and adverse effects on the meaningfulness of life.
There is a famous metaphor: “If one is caught in the heavy rain, it’s nearly impossible to stay dry. Similarly, it is hard not to get caught up in the challenges and negative situations of the world.” No one had ever guaranteed that life would be hunky-dory; however, Pain or Gain is a personal choice. Allanah Hunt rightly said that ‘It is only when you take responsibility for your life that you discover how powerful you truly are.‘
Our childhood experiences not only impact our adulthood but also shape the behaviour & personality through different stages of a child-like childhood to adolescence and further. The actions and behaviour displayed by Kabir from his toddlerhood to youth are actual pieces of evidence to this statement.
As children, we often experience events or see things that define what you believe about the world and form our belief system. What makes the event important is not the intensity, greatness, or the significance of the event itself, but the importance you have given it unconsciously, forming a lifelong belief or set of ideas around the event.
Once you have formed a belief, your brain will start hunting for evidence to prove it correct so that you can hold on to it. Sometimes the brain will make things appear in the way you want them to, so that belief is constantly fed evidence to confirm it is accurate. This is where a belief system gets inherited.
As the years go by, the beliefs will become so strong that you will see the world through it. If you are stacked up with negative feelings, you are going to have a terrible life. Over the years, you build so much evidence to support the belief that it becomes integrated with you, and you do not even think to question it as an adult.
You cannot change the past, but you can change your interpretation of it; and you can re-integrate your limiting beliefs into empowering beliefs.
One of the most effective ways to improve your personal and professional life and to rise to a new level of excellence is to find a mentor to guide you, who can awaken your inner spirit that yearns to breathe. In my own life, I have been blessed with many mentors; people have shown me the fundamentals of active living and helped me find the right direction wherever I lost the track.
Inspirational and self-help books can change your mood and help you view things from a different perspective. It may help you define your dreams; however, a professional guide will show you precisely how to achieve them while bringing balance in your life.
If you are caught in the heavy rain, it is nearly impossible to stay dry. Similarly, it is hard not to get caught in the challenges and adverse situations of the world.
It’s your choice to stay in the victim mode and feel bad about how miserable your life was, is and will remain to be one, or take the responsibility of transforming your life by overcoming the beliefs that hold you back. Draw inner peace and clarity in what you want in life, and excellent health and success in your relationships, career, and wealth.
“Look at the word responsibility-“response-ability”-the ability to choose your response. Highly proactive people recognize that responsibility. They do not blame circumstances, conditions, or conditioning for their behavior. Their behavior is a product of their own conscious choice, based on values, rather than a product of their circumstances, based on feeling.”- Stephen Covey, author of “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People”.
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Article by: Inspiring Jatin
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Inspiring Jatin is a certified Life Coach, Amazon’s #1 Best Selling Author, TVET Trainer, certified by MEPSC, Government of India and a Keynote Speaker. Google shows his brand in the ‘Best Life Coach in India’ category . He works with young folks who may be unaware of their vision in life, are not enjoying their current work/ business, and are struggling to overcome negative emotions from the past that are holding them back from success. Such people find themselves unable to make the right decisions and are struggling with marriage and other relationships.
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